Thanksgiving is around the corner, and for many Floridians, it’s a time of joy and celebration. But for some married couples, the holidays bring stress and tension. This is often a time when many people seriously consider divorce. Let’s explore why this happens and what to do if you are thinking about divorce during the holidays.
Why the holidays can be a tipping point
The holiday season often puts extra pressure on marriages and brings underlying issues to the surface. Some reasons why the holidays may make you think about divorce include:
- Financial stress: Holiday spending can strain already tight budgets, increasing stress and fights.
- Family tensions: Extended family visits can bring old conflicts to the surface.
- High expectations: When reality doesn’t match up, frustration and disappointment can lead to arguments. The holidays can also provide a stark contrast to the idealized family gatherings often portrayed in media, highlighting the shortcomings of one’s own marriage.
- Reflection time: People often evaluate their lives at year’s end.
- Alcohol consumption: Increased drinking can lead to poor decisions or arguments.
For couples already struggling, these added pressures can be the final straw. The holidays magnify existing issues. So, if you’re already struggling with communication or finances, the added pressure of family gatherings, gift-giving and social obligations can amplify these problems.
The good news? Recognizing these stressors is the first step toward managing them.
What to do if you are divorcing during the holidays
If you’re already in the process of divorcing, the holidays can be tough – particularly if you are a parent. Here are some tips to help you through:
- Set clear boundaries with your ex-spouse about holiday plans.
- Create new traditions.
- If you have kids, try to maintain a sense of normalcy for them. Focus on helping them and shielding them from conflict as much as possible.
- Reach out to friends and family for support.
- Take care of your mental health – consider talking to a therapist.
Whether you’re considering divorce or going through one, it’s okay to feel sad or stressed. These emotions are normal during a divorce, especially around the holidays. By acknowledging the potential pitfalls and taking proactive steps, you can work towards a happier, healthier marriage or, if needed, a smoother divorce process.